Interesting conversation and interaction would be a good way to start!
My tastes range from the tame (objectification, humiliation) to the more severe (needles, confinement). Tears are always attractive though!
I've been "hurting people" for 20+ years, writing an explicit list seems a little clinical though as so much depends upon compatability, context, and shared interests. People are .. people, and so wonderfully different. I love people.
[Perhaps I gave the wrong impression; I was thinking "newbie" as in new to here, rather than new to BDSM!]
